Man's obsession with chastity?

Daniel Barron 1612

This idea comes from the very real physical transformation that occurs in a woman after having participated in sexual intercourse for the first time. This is a transformation that does not occur in the male body.

Although I would say the desire from many to lay with a woman who has never been with a man yet is sometimes based in perversion, there is no justification to recommend that women (or men for that matter) should freely engage in extra-marital relations. This temptation is the result of lack of faith that our wife or husband to-be exists. It is a form of denial or self-dishonesty and also of cowardice.

There are countless complications that arise from the practice of adultery. It is wildly immature to recommend this or imply that there is nothing wrong with it.

Jay Hubbard 1316

Greed

Jessica O'Roak 1271

I think maybe it had something to do with way back when before the united states was even here when men were the much more dominant and women were objects of desire. men wanted to be the first their wife had ever been with and otherwise it would be a disappointment. probably like how kids wanna be the only one with the cool new toy. men wanted to be the only who got to have his wife.

after years of that it probably evolved into something more strict and much more expected. and was later intertwined into religion.

I was actually talking to my boyfriend about something like this. In the bible there is no marriage ceremony at least in the original texts of course basically having intercourse with your significant other means marriage in the eyes of God. While sexual promiscuity has never really been looked upon as acceptable chastity is more of a thing that has been put into religion to get women to what society expects of them.

Sarika Kulkarni 2092

Having sent his wife to exile made Ram a step away from being "Purna Purushotam". He considered his role as a king more important than his personal life and was called "Maryada Purushottam". He failed as a husband and a father. Krishna on other hand has always been referred as "Purna Purushottam". He gave equal importance to each n every relationship.

Chastity starts with the mind.. if you have chaste mind you will remain chaste.. As several others mentioned sex is one of the most powerful desires. So if you can control it you can control your other desires too.

Have you heard of black swans.. they are monogamous n pair only once in lifetime..

Antoniea Richardson 1248

Ok, I am taking a Myth in Human Culture class, basically Mythology and we just got done talking about The Ramanyana. And going along with the Ramanyana was a talk about the Hindu culture. Basically it is about a patriarchal society that believes that men are superior to women. Why you ask? Well it all goes into the gestation of a fetus. One's genitals are formed while in the womb (most of us know this...lolz). Well the way that they view men is that their genitals are on the "outside" so men are "fully developed" while a woman's genitals are "inside" which means that women are not "fully developed." The Hindu people take this and see that men are superior to women. This is why women are expected to remain "pure" or "faithful" to their men because of the patriarchal society.

Unknown Brain 2141

http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=RzTg7YXuy34

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Michael Cooke 1905

It's biological and practical from a patriarchal point of view. Biological because women make babies and it's only certain to a father that it's HIS baby if the female is exclusive to the man. The practicality of being the only man a woman knows solves the problem of feeling inadequate because your endowment is too small, or even so big as to hurt a woman - to a woman that knows no other man, your endowment is the endowment of every man. The realities of sexually transmitted diseases are another good reason to prize chastity.

Now human beings are complex animals and the nature of our sexuality and how we relate to it can be impacted socially and culturally. So chastity is not merely a state of sexual inexperience, but something of a sexual fetish as well for a man.

Other cultures have different attitudes in relation to sex and relationships I'd argue as a function of having different cultures coloring the sexuality and its expression.

Unknown Brain 1212

First off, Sita would have had sex with a demonic king, which would have been the major issue. Secondly, it was Sita herself who decided to go off to the jungle to preserve her husband's family name. Rama knew that Sita had remained faithful, and had she had sex with the demonic king, he wouldn't have cared because he knew she would only waver if she had been raped. Laxmana, Rama's brother even threatened anyone who spread rumors soiling Sita's pure name. The issue however was that the relationship of Rama's kingdom was extremely close between the king and the people, meaning they had absolute trust in the king, which was the reason it was the best kingdom in the land. So, to preserve this dynamic, Sita forced Rama to send her off.

As for the question, of holding to chastity, the issue in much of western culture is an inability to refrain from the temptation of sex, which has projected itself onto an idea of chastity. Sex is so embraced by the media and pushed so much onto society, that it surrounds us, which is probably why chastity seems like such a foreign and strange idea to most people. The truth is, this just serves to mask the unwillingness of certain people to restrain their own desires, something that was upheld in earlier generations. Since around 1970, the media and the prevalent culture has been embracing the idea of doing what makes you happy. Make your own choices, be yourself, do what you want, and so people do what they want, namely sex, ignoring much of the consequences on other peoples lives, as well as often times their own. In earlier generations, the idea was on supporting society and helping others and collaborative work. One was still an individual, but an individual serving the higher purpose of supporting society. The difference was that people suppressed their desires to make themselves stronger and to avoid harming society and themselves, worrying heavily about the consequences. The result was an avoidance of an addiction to sex, one of the most powerful desires, as well as something with potentially large consequences.

John Grant 1276

I'd say...it's because, in cultures that hold women to that standard, women are seen as a companion, a helpmate, a support, to the men they are attached to. Women are like the "standard bearer" of our families and lives. For a woman who is a man's wife, to be seen as being unfaithful, or deceitful, reflects badly on the man's name and children. These things are important.

I'll be the first to say it is in humanities more base desires to have sex with multiple partners, but it is this common desire for spirituality, intellectual pursuit, and common respect, and all the things that come with that, that make us want to be pure, upright, and have all members of our family also be the same way.

Other cultures that think differently, simply think differently. We're not wrong and they are not wrong. It's not a bad thing, it's a real thing.