So here's the deal... I've been with this girl for a few months now. I love her as a person but I wouldn't say that I'm in love with her yet. We've had sex and she's great in bed.
The problem is that yesterday she decided that she is finally ready to open up and tell me a bit more about her past. She didn't volunteer this information but told me because I asked. It turns out that she was very sexually active from the time she was 14 until she was about 21 (1998-2005). She was/is very attractive so she had no problem finding partners, and she is bipolar and wasn't medicated then, so she pretty much just went crazy. I don't know if it matters, but she wasn't involved in any prostitution or escorting.
So yesterday I found out that she doesn't know exactly how many guys she's had sex with, but it's somewhere between 120 and 150. I've had sex with 3 girls before her, so obviously this was quite a shock.
I asked her directly about the saying that when a girl tells you how many guys she's had sex with, usually the real number is about 3 times what she says. She assured me that she's being completely honest and 120-150 is the real and accurate number. She's not the type to lie about it or misrepresent herself so I have every reason to believe she is being honest about it.
My question is what should I do? She said that she was afraid to tell me sooner because she has had guys leave her in the past after finding out how many partners she has had, and she did not want to lose me. This implies that she was waiting until I had a bit of time into the relationship so that I'd be less likely to leave her because of it. Was it wrong of her to not tell me before having sex with me?
Should I be considering leaving her because of this? Or would that be overreacting? Should I just try to ignore her past because she's changed since then and is no longer so promiscuous?
When we were talking about it I told her that I would try not to judge her because of her past mistakes and she got upset about the fact that I called them mistakes. She says it has made her who she is today and she doesn't regret any of it. Is it wrong of me to use the word mistakes in this case?
Should I be angry with her because of things she did years before I met her? Should I be angry that she didn't tell me sooner? Should I abandon what could be a good relationship because of her past?
120-150 sounds like a ridiculous number but if you consider that it was over a period of 7 years that's about 20 guys per year, or a little less than 2 per month. That makes it seem slightly more acceptable I guess.
Should I be offended? disgusted? jealous? angry?
Should I feel like her past actions were unintentionally and indirectly disrespectful to me today?
Please reply with any advice you can offer. I am really seriously conflicted about how to handle this. There are lots of other girls out there and this is a lot to deal with mentally/emotionally but I've gotten pretty attached to her already.
By the way, she has had tests for stds and has none.